tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83995894561612427.post8961848553815615496..comments2023-07-02T06:58:58.956-04:00Comments on The New Norm: What I Say SHOULD GoKeyonahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04875993010376385468noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83995894561612427.post-70705107149256591112010-09-11T09:13:53.475-04:002010-09-11T09:13:53.475-04:00No, it's definitely you MIL who's playing ...No, it's definitely you MIL who's playing you! Next time it happens (as hard as it is) you should take her aside and say something direct but non-confrontational.<br /><br />Like "I think it's confusing to the kids when we adopt different stances on things. It would be helpful if we could reinforce one another." Or something like that.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83995894561612427.post-7790300700057871412010-09-11T08:41:12.120-04:002010-09-11T08:41:12.120-04:00I keep thinking about this and it is so an issue o...I keep thinking about this and it is so an issue of MIL disrespecting you in your role as stepmom since she doesn't seem to do it w/ Lael. Argh. I would say pick your battles, but it really doesn't seem you would win any of them unless you had the hubs talk to her on your behalf or you did yourself.<br /><br />Obvs it seems she would totally need the start w/ a compliment approach "it is awesome that you do so much for the girls and give D so much one on one attention when she's here..." <br /><br />"....but now that they're getting to that tween age it's even more important that they mind me. It really helps their bond as sisters to know they have to follow the same rules..."<br /><br />It surely sounds at this point that D is well aware that she can get away with stuff if she runs to granny...thus why she didn't do pj's in the first place. <br /><br />Is D old/mature enough for a heart to heart with you away from MILs house and L? Kind of the same tac with empathizing that it's hard to have so many adults to listen to at MILs house, but that it's very important to follow your family rules for most things and then give some examples of things that granny is more than welcome to spoil her with (extra treats, presents, etc)<br /><br />argh!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08518005474586272743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83995894561612427.post-49631968486055317032010-09-10T11:56:59.615-04:002010-09-10T11:56:59.615-04:00That's so tough, My experience is the opposite...That's so tough, My experience is the opposite and totally different because when my Step Dad came into the picture my sister and I were 15 and 12. Parenting or co-parenting from a young age is different from something like that. Is it possible to sit down with the MIL when the girls aren't around and talk about how you are feeling? Having your husband there to support you and if you are on good terms with Deja's Mom, get her in the conversation too so that everyone is on the same page.TMCPhotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00507659700870917548noreply@blogger.com