It's a wonderful time of year. It's actually my favorite time of year. It's sad that people are usually only nice during these next few months and not so much the rest of the year.
That being said, as excited as I am to have this season upon us I am also stressed.
The stress comes from being a part of a blended family.
I love D with all my heart. I love being a step-mom. But during the holiday's it's a challeging time.
Some may know but right now my hubby still stays at home so there is only my income. We have adjusted our lifestyles to this but not everyone keeps that in mind.
We get D every other holiday. Last year we had her for Thanksgiving and for her birthday (Dec 31st).
This year we get her for Christmas.
I know I should be excited about this, and believe me I am. But some anxiety comes with that as well.
The thing is. She gets 2 Christmases and Lael gets 1.
What I mean by this, is that I have to find a way to not let Lael's plethera of gifts trump D's few items.
How do I do this?
It has been a challenge EVERY other year.
We pay child support and her mother has spend about 2-3 hundred on her but we are expected to spend the same.
I don't agree.
I don't agree that she should get 2 full Christmases. I can not afford to spend 3 hundred on each of the girls. I think it's ridiculous.
A few weeks ago I had D's mom send me her Christmas list. There were some pretty pricey items on there.
For her 6th birthday hubby bought her a Nintendo DS. I thought it was a big gift for a little girl but he got it anyway.
She took pretty good care of it for a while untill she left it in her bike at her moms and some girl took it when she wasn't home and dropped it. Since then it won't work unless it is plugged up.
So guess what my husband does?
He tells her he will buy her a new one. But not a regular DS but a DSi the ones that cost about $170.
For fucking real? That was my first thought.
Then when I spoke with her mom about other gifts she mentioned a Barbie Townhouse. Guess how much that is?
Not gonna happen.
I explained that it was impossible for me to afford that. While she is only spending on D we have to spend for both girls.
Somethings gotta give.
It's not that she doesn't understand it's getting D to understand.
She doesn't understand child support and that we can't send her mom $500 a month and also spend 3 on her for Christmas and still be able to provide for our other child.
All she will see is her 3 or 4 gift and Lael's 10-15 gifts. Numbers matter not price.
Lael now saw the DSi on TV and asked for it. How do you think she gonna feel when her sister get the new one with a camera built in and she still has her old crusty one?
What to do. Get them both DSi's and then a few cheap gifts?
Sell my blood for Christmas money?
I would pimp myself out but something tells me my fat belly would repulse some.
I love Christmas time but making everyone happy can make it suck sometimes.