Friday, March 14, 2008

Lesson Learned

So I have a friend who I've known since 10th grade of High School.

She's had problems in the past and being the person I try to be, I try not to judge and through all her faults continue to keep her on my "team".

So with me being the 2nd to oldest out of my siblings, I learned early on not to repeat the mistakes of others before you. This said I watched her and my other girlfriends get pregnant over and over again. I mean an OBSCENE amount of pregnancies. This one particular friend currently has 4 kids but that's only the 4 she kept. I lost count after the first 4 abortions before the first baby and the few in between each. Because of this I waited until I was 22 to have my daughter and then seeing how they struggle with multiple kids, I refuse to have anymore..lesson learned.

Ok so the point of this was to talk about how this friend of mine decided to divorce the father of ther first 2 born kids and in the process started dating another guy. Well she found out she was having her 3rd kid and didn't know who the father was...hmmm not good. Anyway it was the other guys and things worked out the way she wanted.

So her and him have been together for the past 5 or so years now. During all of this he has been out doing crazy stuff. Selling drugs and all kinds of thing you shouldn't have your children exposed to. With regards to all the he seemed to be a pretty good man to her. The only problem is he never wanted to talk about marriage. Weird huh? Well who knows why. What I do know is through all this she has messed with her ex on numerous occasions in addition to getting drunk and letting strippers from the local night club do things to her I'd rather not say more or less know about.

So they've been living together in his moms house, in my house, in their own place and still no marriage. So 2 years ago around this time she finally threatens him into marrying her because she doesn't want to "play house" anymore. So he agrees and she starts to plan a really nice wedding. I was asked to be the Matron of Honer which was really sweet. So I start mailing out invitations, I arrange an engagement dinner, and I plan the bridal shower. I went to David's Bridal more times then I wanted and then to a new place to finally order my dress. So 3 weeks before the wedding I am going to pay off and pick up my dress. On the way there I call to see her and she tell me not to get the dress because the weddings off. WHAT!!!!

So they broke up for a few days and people were out of tons of money they spent, but get this, she postpones it for the same time a year from then which will be this September. Ok, that's weird but whatever. Am I expected to do this stuff all over again. I am one that learns from my mistakes because I've been putting her off all winter and now that spring is coming around she was starting to pressure me about getting my NEW dress and my daughter because she supposed to be a flower girl. So I'm like ok, I better be the supportive friend and just take care of it. But then, I get a call YESTERDAY that the wedding is off AGAIN!

So all I lost this time were precious moments listening to all the wedding plans, seriously lesson learned.

1 comment:

  1. Wow...this is crazy, but it is the truth, you can only learn from your mistakes and not get burnt again! We both know this from our crazy situations, but we are always learning from other people...what crazy friends we have :)


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