Some of you have been slacking. You have to answer the question. No judgement will be passed....ok maybe a little.
Just kidding.
Ok here goes:
If you could give anonymous advice to one set of parents you know about how they are raising thier kids, who would it be and what would you tell them?
Don't be afraid. We all have different opinions and it's ok. It's not like I'm going to TELL them what you said.
So for me it would be my best friend and her fiance. I love her with all my heart but they don't speak to their kids in the best way.
While on the phone with her the other day I heard her fiance yell "Get you ass back in the fucking tub!" I gasped.
And then I was silent.
She was all like "What?" And I said "Why is he talking to him like that, he's 2!"
And she said something about how many times he had gotten out of the tub and that he doesn't really understand what they are saying.
I call bullshit.
I have yelled at my kids before. I admit it. But I have never, ever, spoken to them this way before.
I would give them both advice on talking to each other and the children the way they want them to talk to others. Friends, family, everyone.
I haven't given her the advice because she over-reacts but it has been eating at me. I'll tell her one day.
Just not now.
Ok, your turn. Let's see what you got.
A friend is getting ready to marry a man that already has 2 kids. Like my situation, their Bio-Mom is a criminal and he is just starting the custody fight for them. My friend is scared.
ReplyDeleteI would (and have) told her to not give up on the kids. It's not easy and there will be times that you can't stand what "they" did to your life but you can't give up on them.
They deserve more in life...they just don't know it yet.
Ok, a "friend" of mine. His two daughters are 9 and 13. He gives them EVERYTHING they want and sometimes things they don't want. They do nothing for themselves and expect others to do everything for them and give them whatever they want.
ReplyDeleteI want to tell him that he is NOT doing them a favor. People are NOT going to be able to stand these girls and no one will ever be able to make them happy.
Sigh. I would like to tell him that, but won't. :)
My husband's daughter's mother. I'd tell her to stop trying to hang every weekend like she's 20 instead of 36, and take care of her kid! I'd also tell her all that makeup makes her look like a dragqueen and we all know the real reason why she left her husband. Oh, my bad, you did say advice about parenting :-).
ReplyDeleteOur neighbors...who have a 4YO who is never watched. She crosses the street all the time without anyone knowing and is at our house for hours with no one checking on her.
ReplyDeleteMy youngest sister. She thinks dressing her daughter in the latest fashion is parenting. It's not. She needs to spend quality time with her. Be a parent. Instead of letting BET be her guide. Her daughter is only 3, and talks and dances like a video vixen:(
ReplyDeleteHugs and Mocha,
Stesha
I know some parents whose children are out of control. And it's because they are lazy. They sit on the couch and yell threats to the kids, but they never once follow through. And the kids know it. They take the yelling and do what they want because they know mom and dad aren't going to do a darn thing about it. It's so frustrating to me! I want to shake them and say, if you said you were going to _____ if they did _________, you'd better do it, or they are going to think they can keep doing these things. They also run wild through the neighborhood, and I'm sure they drive the neighbors nuts.
ReplyDeleteMy neighbors. They have girls (6 and 5) and they have them in some kind of lesson every freaking afternoon. Those girls are so overscheduled it's not even human. What happened to being a kid?
ReplyDeleteI'm with TKW...I have a friend whose kids are busy 24/7...that ain't right.
ReplyDeleteWow. what you heard over the phone. wow. I'm not perfect, but no...couldn't talk that way to my kids.
ReplyDeleteAnd I dare not say who I would give anon advice to...that's how paranoid I am, that they would somehow see my comment. Yup. I'm insane.