Monday, March 17, 2008


So I have never been one that's against gays or lesbians. I think it is everyone's personal choice on what type of sexuality they want to be involved with. However, I am usually able to tell if someone is Gay and I am sure that they are able to tell as well. This being said, I'm at work today and there is this girl in here working on our computers. I say hello and smile because I am polite but I'm afraid that was my first mistake. A few minutes later she walks up behind me and just starts talking. No hello my name is...but full out just talking like we know each other. I smile again and respond but try to show her that I am busy and need to get back to work. Problem soloved...nope. Ten minutes later she's finds me again and I'm not just sitting at my desk but walking around trying to get stuff done. At this point I have picked up on the "I"m a lesbian" vibe, which is cool, but I'm sure it's pretty obvious that I am not. I manage to shake here once again and walk back to my desk to grab my bowl and wash it out. Oh but guess who finds me and decides to walk all the way out of my office, down the hall and follow me to the ladies room still trying to hold on a conversation! LEAVE ME ALONE !!! That's what I'm thinking but I continue to be nice but I'm quickly getting annoyed. She leave and I get back to my desk and think wow, I'm glad that's over but I continue to jump to conclusion. This time she corners me at my desk, proceeds to lean on it and just open up her life story to me. SERIOUSLY. She stands there for a good 15 minutes telling me many things I don't care to know and I smile and nod and make inputs when necessary. Meanwhile, my co-workers are walking pass my desk giggling because they are well aware of what's going on. Why me?? She still in the office so I'm sure it's not over yet. Wow it's going to be a long day, I'm flattered, really...but no thanks.

Oh yeay!! She just left but not before shaking my hand and giving me a wink!! You've got to be kidding me...

Saturday, March 15, 2008

Adventures of the Step-Mom

So I know it shouldn't be so, but sometimes it is really hard being a stepmom. You want to make sure you aren't too nice and too mean at the same time. I think the hardest part is not knowing how to deal with certain situations. It's amazing how I don't understand why she can be so mean towards me when I've been there since before she was born. I try to be fair and caring when she's here and if it weren't for me she would have absolutely no fun during her visits. Is it that she just has some horrible traits from her moms side or am I a bad stepmom?? Oh well, I guess I'll find out when I make it to my final judgement day.


Friday, March 14, 2008

Lesson Learned

So I have a friend who I've known since 10th grade of High School.

She's had problems in the past and being the person I try to be, I try not to judge and through all her faults continue to keep her on my "team".

So with me being the 2nd to oldest out of my siblings, I learned early on not to repeat the mistakes of others before you. This said I watched her and my other girlfriends get pregnant over and over again. I mean an OBSCENE amount of pregnancies. This one particular friend currently has 4 kids but that's only the 4 she kept. I lost count after the first 4 abortions before the first baby and the few in between each. Because of this I waited until I was 22 to have my daughter and then seeing how they struggle with multiple kids, I refuse to have anymore..lesson learned.

Ok so the point of this was to talk about how this friend of mine decided to divorce the father of ther first 2 born kids and in the process started dating another guy. Well she found out she was having her 3rd kid and didn't know who the father was...hmmm not good. Anyway it was the other guys and things worked out the way she wanted.

So her and him have been together for the past 5 or so years now. During all of this he has been out doing crazy stuff. Selling drugs and all kinds of thing you shouldn't have your children exposed to. With regards to all the he seemed to be a pretty good man to her. The only problem is he never wanted to talk about marriage. Weird huh? Well who knows why. What I do know is through all this she has messed with her ex on numerous occasions in addition to getting drunk and letting strippers from the local night club do things to her I'd rather not say more or less know about.

So they've been living together in his moms house, in my house, in their own place and still no marriage. So 2 years ago around this time she finally threatens him into marrying her because she doesn't want to "play house" anymore. So he agrees and she starts to plan a really nice wedding. I was asked to be the Matron of Honer which was really sweet. So I start mailing out invitations, I arrange an engagement dinner, and I plan the bridal shower. I went to David's Bridal more times then I wanted and then to a new place to finally order my dress. So 3 weeks before the wedding I am going to pay off and pick up my dress. On the way there I call to see her and she tell me not to get the dress because the weddings off. WHAT!!!!

So they broke up for a few days and people were out of tons of money they spent, but get this, she postpones it for the same time a year from then which will be this September. Ok, that's weird but whatever. Am I expected to do this stuff all over again. I am one that learns from my mistakes because I've been putting her off all winter and now that spring is coming around she was starting to pressure me about getting my NEW dress and my daughter because she supposed to be a flower girl. So I'm like ok, I better be the supportive friend and just take care of it. But then, I get a call YESTERDAY that the wedding is off AGAIN!

So all I lost this time were precious moments listening to all the wedding plans, seriously lesson learned.

Thursday, March 13, 2008

The Beginning

So this is my first time blogging so I don't really know what I'm doing. I'm sitting here at work and have literally had this blog sititng open for HOURS trying to write something down but I've been so busy I can't even think. Oh well...I really wanted to start blogging to get some of this stuff off my chest and just so I won't forget some of the crazy things that happen in my life. But for now this is just another day....