Me and Lael have been having an ongoing battle this week. Well actually since school started. But this week I’ve decided to crack the whip.
Lael has a problem.
She’s a chatter box.
I’m sure most kids this age are but I really do think she takes it to the extreme. I know that for her age she would normally be in Kindergarten but the fact is she isn’t. She’s in the 1st grade and has to act like it.
Her teacher means business. There are rules and those rules must be followed.
Some of the rules include: No Talking In The Hallway, No Talking During Circle Time, No Talking During Sharing Time (unless you are asking them a question), etc…
Lael finds this very hard.
Her teacher has a reward system. You get 4 stripes everyday at the beginning of the day. The goal is to keep all your stripes until the end of the day to earn a star on the Star Chart. If you get 1 taken away you have a chance to earn it back with good behavior. If you get 2 taken away to can get them both back so you will surely not get a star. If you get 3 taken away you get a note sent home. If you get all 4 taken away you get a phone call to your parents.
Lael hasn’t made it past 2 being taken away but that’s as far as I’ll let this game go.
I don’t think that is is really that hard. Follow the simple rules. She has gotten her stripes taken away for a variety of reasons but mostly it’s talking.
I know that it has to be hard at school because I can’t get her to stop talking at home.
If I’m on a phone call she insists that whatever she has to tell me is soooooo important that it can’t wait until I hang up the phone.
This is how our last conversation went.
“Mom, I’ve got to tell you something. It’s really important.”
“Lael, I’m on the phone. Give me a minute and I’ll come talk to you.”
“Lael! I’m on the phone wait…”
“Stop. Hold that though, let me finish talking on the phone!”
She then presses her lips together for a few seconds and then yells out….
“Ah! I can’t hold it in. I just really need to tell you.”
Seriously. It’s like she’s going to explode if she can’t get her thoughts out right then and there.
We have had talks about when it’s appropriate to talk and when it’s time to be quiet. She understands but I think she really struggles with it.
Out of 30 something days of school she’s only gotten 4. I repeat 4 stars. Most for talking offenses.
Something’s got to change. If she fills her chart with stars she gets to get a magic pencil. My child needs the magic pencil. Don’t you see. It’s like a game.
I explained to her she needs to win the game. Get the most stars and you win! I even told her that for every 5 stars she get I will get her a prize.
Bribing? Maybe. Whatever, judge if you want. I gotta do what I gotta do to make this thing happen.
All week she got stripes taken away. Until I broke it down to her. Now that it’s a game with incentives she is excited.
Yesterday she came home and announced that she got a star.